FORE! How Golf is Like Leadership

img_1495I’ve recently taken up golf. Apart from the short-lived, lackluster stint on my 9th grade golf team that I mentioned in a previous post, I’ve never really played, even though my dad is a lifelong golfer and I grew up to the sounds of golf on TV (I still don’t get the appeal of watching golf on TV– it’s so quiet) and old issues of Golf magazine lying around the house. It didn’t occur to me to play golf myself until I joined my new school district, which participates in an annual fundraising golf tournament that sounded like A LOT of fun, and which I missed last year since I was both a) brand new to the district and b) not a golfer. My goal was to take lessons and develop a basic skill set by the time of the tournament, held annually in early August. In order to meet this deadline, I enrolled in lessons at my local golf course, went to the driving range several times, played a round with my husband, and picked up some cute golf clothes (obviously an essential part of the experience)! I indeed participated in the tournament, joining a foursome with a colleague (Ali and I were the #teamtobeat) and her golf pro-like mother and sister. Let’s just say I need to put in a few more hours at the driving range. But that’s not the point of this post.

The point is that golf is a lot like leadership. As with any new activity, I’ve been mulling over the essential elements of golf and starting to realize how it presents many parallels with leadership, both educational and otherwise.

img_2148Coach Cory, the golf pro at my local course and instructor of my adult golf lessons, reminds us to think about “G.A.S.” when we’re working through our pre-shot routine. As an intellectual exercise, I’ve come up with what I think are some serviceable metaphors for leadership.

“G” is for “Grip”
The first step of setting up a shot is establishing your grip. If you start with a poor grip, nothing else that you do in your shot will make a difference. In school leadership, “grip” is establishing those fundamentals. You’ve got to make sure that you have the education, certification, and appropriate experience for the work you plan to do.

“A” is for “Aim”
The next step is aim. Once your grip is established, you’ve got to set your club face in the right direction and then, without losing your grip, align your body to the club. We can think about “aim” by determining in what direction we are going. This might be decided by the district, the school improvement team, and by your own goals for the school or department. Even if we have a strong foundation (“grip”), we’ll be ineffective without the right vision to guide us.

“S” is for “Setup”
The final step of a pre-shot routine is setup. This means positioning your body for a strong, successful swing. In our school leadership metaphor, “setup” is how you’ve established your building or department structures. Now that you’ve established your foundation (“grip”) and know your vision (“aim”), have you fostered a culture of trust, collaboration, and risk-taking among your staff? Are teachers willing to step up and work on committees, open their classrooms to others, and come to you with issues and questions? Do you encourage and support your staff in their professional growth? You can have the greatest potential for success by having a top-notch education, a wealth of experience, and an inspiring vision, but if you don’t set up your school or department structures to capitalize on those strengths, you are guaranteed to waste time spinning your wheels.

What follows are a few others golf/leadership metaphors:

When you’re taking the first shot at a hole, you tee up your ball. This helps elevate the ball so you have a better chance at a long, strong drive. As you progress through the fairway toward the green, you no longer have the option for a tee. In leadership, sometimes things are set up nicely for you, but usually you’ve got to work with what you’ve got and negotiate yourself out of the weeds, around the hazards, and back onto the fairway.

img_2008Short Game
People say that the short game, especially putting, is where golf is won or lost. You can have the longest, straightest drive, but if you don’t pay attention to your short game, you’ll never get it right. Coach Cory also says that no one goes to the putting green to practice– people just want to go to the driving range and whack the hell out of the ball with their driver. In schools, as I describe above, you can be a superstar leader with the greatest credentials and experience, but if you don’t pay attention to people, and invest time in your culture, you’ll never have true success. This takes time and patience, however– getting to know your staff, spending time with students in and out of the classroom, establishing a healthy and safe culture– it all takes time, and not everyone has the patience to master their “short game.”  The leaders in my career who have been the best (see my post “The Mentors”) have had a killer short game.

Nothing strikes fear into the heart of a golfer like a hole with strategically placed hazards. Water hazards, sand traps, trees– these can throw a wrench into what could have been an easy hole. Sometimes just the presence of a hazard can get into a golfer’s head and throw them off. Now, I don’t know if this is what an actual golfer would say, but it seems to me that the best way to confront a hazard is to stick to your basics, focus on the green, and swing nice and easy. As a school leader, hazards are many and are often unpredictable. An unruly staff member, confrontational parent, community crisis, new state mandate, all of these can be experienced in the course of a school year. In order be best prepared to handle these hazards, we must be aware that they might happen and then when they do, we stick to the basics, focus on our vision, and confront the issue in a calm and controlled manner.

In golf, you may have a few “one in a million” shots, but usually you’ve just got to progress down the fairway, putting in the work with consistent but shorter shots, sometimes hitting a wild slice off to the side, but then correcting your aim, keeping your head down, and getting back on track with the next swing. The school leadership metaphor here is basically the same. You will experience the occasional shining moment in the sun, but a lifetime of success only comes from a constant correcting, re-aligning yourself to vision, and putting in consistent effort.

Golf is more fun with friends. So is school leadership. Find your people, enjoy them, lean on them, and learn from one another.

If you’re lucky, you’ll have the opportunity to work with a great caddy. This metaphor might be a bit of a stretch, as I don’t ever anticipate getting to the level where I’ll actually have someone carry my clubs, but if you do, use them! Listen to their advice, treat them well, and allow them to help you carry your bag. As an administrator, you will be surrounded by people who can help you. These people might have official roles as “assistant principal/superintendent/etc.”, or they might be someone in your building on whom can rely and in whom you place trust. Let them help you, ask their advice, and support them in their own professional growth.

Everyone knows that walking is healthier and better exercise, but carts are so much fun and allow your game to progress faster. In professional leadership life, you will have many opportunities to take shortcuts and go the easy route. It’s generally a better idea to do the work, take a “slow and steady” approach, make sure to cross your t’s and dot your i’s, but sometimes it’s okay to have fun and take the fast track!

Tournaments, Foursomes, and Solo Play
Many structures exist in which you enjoy a round of golf. You can play in a serious tournament for cash, in a no-stakes scramble for charity, with friends for fun, or even alone. Same with leadership. Sometimes you’ll be interacting with others at a large conference, or with members of an Admin Team, as a building, with a small group of staff, or by yourself. It’s important to mix it up and learn how to get the most out of everything you do so that you can are constantly experiencing professional growth.

Golf Pro
Even the best golfers know that they can learn from even better, more experienced players. My dad, even though he’s played golf for fifty years, still watches “how to” golf videos and embraces a beginner’s mindset when it comes to learning new techniques. As leaders, it’s easy to think we’ve got it all figured out and that since we’ve risen to a certain organizational level, we don’t have anything to learn. On the contrary, leaders need coaches and mentors. There is always someone who knows more than us, and who can look at us objectively and point out our blind spots in a compassionate, yet specific way. These people should be sought out– no matter our job title.

Well, that’s about all the golf metaphors I can wring out at the moment. Have more? Leave a comment below!

In conclusion, I’ve loved learning about the game of golf and challenging myself with an activity that’s so different than anything else I do. Being outside, usually with friends, engaging in moderately physical activity, sometimes with a cold beverage, is a pretty great way to spend an afternoon. Like school leadership, you do what you can to prepare yourself by establishing a solid foundation of skills, practice when you can, keep the end in mind, enjoy the hard drives but don’t forget about the short game, appreciate the people who can help you and treat them well, and above all, have fun and enjoy the Game!

5 Tips for Doing Stuff That Scares You

I love change. I like learning new things, challenging myself in new ways, meeting new people, and, to be honest, I like to be thrown far out of my comfort zone. When I was in college, I completed the second half of my student teaching requirements at a sports high school in Sydney, Australia. As I was finishing college, I applied to two overseas positions: teaching English in Japan with the JET program, and teaching social studies (my certified area of teaching) at the American School in Tegucigalpa, Honduras. I didn’t know anyone who had done either of these things, but had met a bunch of international 20-somethings while working at a summer camp throughout college. These international youth seemed very glamorous and worldly, so I figured that if I could work and travel, I would also experience this fabulous lifestyle.

Fast forward twenty years, and I’ve lived in Australia, met my husband at that school in Honduras, added a library master’s degree, had two daughters while working as a school librarian at an international school in Jakarta, Indonesia, moved back to the U.S., moved overseas again to Manila, Philippines, then moved back once more to Chicago. I got my first administrator position, and then I got my next (current and wonderful) administrator position.

All that to say, I’m still looking for ways to keep myself off balance. Not in a self-punishing way, but I feel like I’m at my best when I’m a little uncomfortable. I think this is a good thing– reflecting on my life, I’ve been at my best when I’ve done something brand new, something I wasn’t sure was going to be 100% successful. I definitely had no road map for success in Honduras, or library school, in Indonesia, or in this brand new job, but what I know for sure is that as long as I’m not attached to achieving pre-identified results, and as long as I’m willing to be open to learning from others and making mistakes along the way, everything seems to work out okay.

Over the past three months, I’ve counted five separate circumstances into which I’ve placed myself VOLUNTARILY, and due to which I’ve experienced varying levels of discomfort– sometimes asking myself, “What are you doing??? Don’t you remember how this is hard and scary??”

First, I gave a presentation at a state conference this past February. I’ve presented at conferences before, but the topic of this one was especially personal and a little out of the ordinary. But I was driven to create and present it, in the hopes that sharing my experiences might help other people. I spent countless hours creating the best slideshow, talking points, and presentation that I possibly could, largely out of fear of failure (which was actually the topic of my presentation– I get the irony). I felt a great sense of accomplishment because I did it even though, and maybe because, I was really afraid.

The second voluntary situation is this blog itself! I want to write in it regularly as a way to develop my own thoughts on a variety of topics and to challenge myself to add to the work/life, education conversation, but the entire time I’m writing I’m trying to silence the voice in my head saying, “Does anyone really care about this?” It’s a small but powerful voice! From what I’ve read, and the advice I’ve gotten from others, is to just keep writing without attachment or expectation of outcome.

On a lighter note, the third voluntary circumstance I’ve thrown myself into is golf. My dad has been a huge golfer my whole life, but aside from a forgettable stint on the 9th grade girls’ golf team, I have not made an effort. After beginning my new job, however, something clicked– and I feel great motivation to at least be good enough to play at a very basic level in case of the occasional golf outing (even if it’s just a few holes before moving on to riding around in a golf cart, heckling the real golfers). It’s been fun taking lessons and assuming a beginner’s mindset, having no expectation of skill save that of what I may have remembered from the previous week’s lesson. It’s refreshing to look to someone else as the expert, and freeing to be able to ask any question that comes to mind without worry that maybe I should have known the answer. Not that in my current district leadership position I feel that I have to have all the answers– far from it– but there is an underlying sense (completely self-determined)  that I should have at least some idea or prior knowledge of everything I do.

The fourth situation evoking mild terror is the first annual district-wide technology conference that I’m planning. I’ve ALWAYS wanted to do something like this, and am extremely thrilled and grateful to my district leaders for supporting it. It’s scary though, because having never done it before, I have no idea how it’s going to turn out. I think it will be successful, as we’ve got 21 amazing staff members presenting on a variety of exciting topics, but still, I can’t control the number of staff signing up and it’s hard to predict what hiccups might occur that in hindsight should have been completely obvious. This one is especially looming large in my head right now, as it’s happening in less than a week! Stay tuned for a post-conference reflection :-).

Finally, I’m presenting at a big conference (ISTE– International Society for Technology in Education) at the end of the month. It’s in a format I’ve never tried before, and I could have said no, but it seemed like a new experience and, as I’ve established earlier in this post, there’s nothing I love more than being thrown in the deep end. So I said, “Sure, why not?”


  1. No ones cares. No ones cares like you do. This might seem really hard to believe, especially if you’re in a high-pressure environment like a conference presentation or some other circumstance where it feels like all eyes are on you, but it’s true. Your biggest nightmare (messing up your presentation, hosting a lame conference, whiffing your drive in front of colleagues) will very barely register in someone else’s mind. They might have a negative or critical thought skitter across their mind, but they will soon be back to focusing on their own worries.
  2. You’re growing your brain. Trying something new, practicing new skills, learning new concepts, all of these help stimulate the neuroplasticity of our brains. The very act of new physical or intellectual efforts helps our brains grow and form new pathways. You might never achieve greatness at these new skills, but your brain benefits all the same.
  3. Have no attachment to the outcome. This one is probably the thing that helps me the most. I won’t pretend that I don’t check the stats of this blog in the days after a new post is published, but I try to remember that I’m not writing to raise my stats or to receive some sort of outside acknowledgement– I am writing for myself. Once I hit that publish button and send it out into the universe, I’m done. I can release attachment from any further expectation. Same for the golf, or the presentations, or the conference– I want to do the very best that I can do, with the information that I have, and create circumstances with the greatest chance of success. But once you have done that and given it your best effort, you can release any further attachments to achieving specific outcomes.
  4. Examine your thoughts. Freaking out? Caught in a worry cycle? Wondering why you ever did this in the first place? Explore that. Follow your thoughts about the very worst outcome. What if it did happen? Would it really be all that bad? What might you learn if that did happen? Will people really judge you or laugh at you? This is highly doubtful. What I’ve found is that people tend to admire those who try stuff– even if they’re not successful. People regret what they don’t try– they don’t regret having tried something that failed.
  5. Have fun. Because new stuff is fun, and you often to get meet some pretty awesome people along the way! Take it from Ferris Bueller– life does move pretty fast and if you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it!

What have you tried? Are you doing something new right now? Leave a message in the comments and let me know!